Today marks 15 years

Today marks 15 years that Keyron and I have been together. It’s been a hell of a ride with its ups and downs along the way but overall it’s been very good.

The first few years were excellent, the middle years a bit difficult but now it seems like things have finally gotten good. I love him more than ever. I’m not one to wax rhapsodic on things like this but Keyron is definitely the one for me. He’s funny, talented, smart and makes me happy. I guess I can’t ask for much more.

The one thing I want for us is to be married here in Rhode Island. Not a ceremony that friends and family attend with non-binding documents, I want full legal recognition of the union.

We seem to be getting nowhere regarding marriage equality in Rhode Island. For some reason Marriage Equality Rhode Island under advice from GLAAD considers the judiciary in the state to be hostile to a potential rights case. If you read about our judicial system you’d find that it is fiercely independent and very much in tune with the constitution of the state as well as the federal constitution.

I plan to testify at the hearings again this year, but this time around I’m going to tell the legislators flat out that their reluctance to pass the legislation WILL lead to it being taken up by the judiciary, same as what happened in Massachusetts.

I did note that the song playing is rather apropos to what I’ve written.


Now playing: The Gap Band – You Dropped A Bomb On Me
via FoxyTunes

3 thoughts on “Today marks 15 years

  1. Happy Anniversary! We at MERI want you to be able to get married here, too, and we’re on a “4 years or less” plan to get there.

    It’s not so much that we consider the courts hostile to LGBTQ issues and/or marriage, but more that we don’t have any way to know what they would do with an “affirmative marriage case” – wonklanguage for a case that seeks to secure marriage rights. It’s been more than 100 years since the Rhode Island Supreme Court has had a case that asks a question about who gets to marry, in a case called “ex parte Chase” in 1904. The other sorts of cases we look to for information on how they see family, spouses, etc. are such things as employment discrimination, family law and adoption cases, and other such things that illustrate the court’s concepts of family. Beyond that, our Court is often conservative on gender issues and equality, not a good sign for a marriage case.

    Remember, even in states where the Courts had a great history of LGBTQ equality and broad statements on marriage and family recogntion, such as New York and Washington State, we still wound up with really troubling decisions that not only did not provide marriage rights, but also brought same-sex couples’ adoption and parenting rights into question. This is NOT an outcome we want in Rhode Island.

    Additionally, Rhode Island couples can travel to Massachusetts to marry now, because neither the courts nor the legislature have taken action to ban same-sex couples from marrying. A bad decision by the court would close the border to Massachusetts, and could throw legally married same-sex couples into legal limbo.

    A same-sex couple has filed for divorce in Rhode Island, and the Supreme Court will be weighing in on this case toward the end of the year. We’ll have a better sense of where the court stands, for better or for worse, then. In the meantime, the Massachusetts border is open, Canada is lovely this time of year, and we’ve been having great results with employers and others recognizing marriages between same-sex spouses….I’m just sayin’.

    Anyone with questions about their rights, or who wants more info on Marriage Equality Rhode lsland, should visit our website at, or contact me at jsteinfeld [at] or 401.463.5368 x344.

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